The very basic
question is how does seeking God look in general and singleness and why is it important?
for me personally seeking God in general is you know by praying intentionally,
communicating with Him through prayer or through worship. But then you can go
to a whole new level and go deeper with it. Say something heavy from your heart
and you want to know what the Lord's perfect will in a situation you are in.
God wants us to have the intimacy with Him, He wants us to meet
Him face to face like He did with Abraham. A lot of times I feel like we
feel so far away from God, but my question to you is how much have you
done to get yourself closer to Him? It takes work, my friend.
Seeking God when you have crush on someone and when you think he/she could be a
potential someone. You can seek the Lord in different ways than that, if the
Lord whether you want it or not, you can ask Him, ”okay Lord, I am in a
season of waiting, maybe I don’t like it or maybe I do. But the way that kind
of flip me be your attitude or the position of your heart is having vision and
purpose for that singleness.” Because I believe if you are going
to do anything in life without vision, intention and purpose, you aimlessly
enter into things that maybe first, God doesn’t want you to enter into that
situation, or second maybe it’s not the right time for you entering to it. If
you are entering too soon you are going to get beat up, you are going get
broken bones.
To all those singles out there, I would encourage you to
intentionally ask Jesus what is your singleness is about? What is
it for? We sometimes forget about it and assume that our purpose and
our vision in life is only for marriage and relationships, but in fact God also
does visions for your singleness. I think a lot of times we waste time and we
don’t glean all the beautiful lesson and things that the Lord has us to learn
in the season he has for us.
For me personally being single is a beautiful
time. It is time for you to solely focus on your relationship with Christ and
hear what he is speaking to you without outside distractions. Our culture tells
us that we are not worthy if we are not in a relationship with the opposite
sex. But, I say (and the Bible), we are in a relationship, all the time, and it
happens to be with someone far better than we deserve, Jesus Christ.
The more that you see Him in your singleness and the more that you
are in tune to the call of His purpose, it actually prepares you for whatever
comes after that season of singleness. You need to go deeper, because if you
don’t go into it individually knowing the vision that God has for you, then you
could potentially hook up with the wrong person, you could go down to the path
that the Lord never intended you to be on. So when you know your heart, you
believe, have the confirmation from God, your standard is going to be raised
and you are going to filter out a lot of people that you shouldn’t be
connecting with, wasting your time and wasting their time. As believers we need
to look different than the world. The world dates for selfish reason, they
married for selfish reason, it is pleasing and satisfying their desires and
taking from each other what they can get from the most part. But we have vision
and purpose.
We date to marry for a reason. Marriage for us has a whole
different notes. It is basically the reflection of our relationship with God.
So if you are walking into dating situation without understanding that, you are
dating aimlessly. Two people coming together for the Lord sake is meant to
reflect His relationship and His Love. The enemy has done a dang good job at
destroying something that God has done for us. We have to get back to the heart
of God and raise that standard from that worldly one to the heavenly one.
We also need to start asking the Lord, why am I dating this
person? or what is my singleness is about?. We need to compare each other’s
calls and visions because if your heart really is to seek the kingdom of God
and let your relationship honors and glorifies Him and give this world a taste
of heaven and who He is and His desires for us, then you are going to know if
whether the calls are different or not, or maybe this person is not the right
one for you, or maybe your singleness has its own purpose and vision for you to
be prepared for the next season of your life. Fix your eyes on God, friends and
family. It will all be worth the wait, I promise!
