My story of unconditional love

Unconditional love is not about what a person does!

I still loved this man as much as i had before he broke the news. I still wanted him to be happy. I still cared about him. I realized at that moment that if you truly love someone, you want them to be happy, you want the best for them even if that means not being with you.

This thought did not make the pain or hurt go away. It was so intense that it took me months to finally get back to being me. Many of them told me that he was no good and would say unkind things about him. They thought that would make me feel better. They simply didn’t understand. The way i saw it, how can someone go from loving someone to not loving them overnight just because they did something you didn’t want. That would erase all good memories as if they never existed.

Sometimes it is hard to understand the human condition until we are thrown into the fire and discover how we respond in the moment. I wasn’t thinking about the meaning of unconditional love before this happened. Nothing like this had ever happened to me before, so i was not ready for it. Maybe we never are. How i responded to this situation came from deep within my heart and it was as real as it gets. My reaction surprised me and inspired me.

What Unconditional Love Really Means?

I came to learn what true love means. These questions came to mind: Would you still care about them and want the best for them? If your answer is YES, you love unconditionally. If your answer is NO, what you are feeling is not love. It may be a very strong emotion and feeling of attachment but IT IS NOT LOVE.

It is not about desire, attraction, enjoyment, similar interest, common values or emotions. It is something that simply happens outside of human control. Once that internal love alignment occurs, it will last forever. It can never be broken. Our spirit is forever connected to the other person’s spirit regardless of what happens with us on a human level.

True Unconditional Love Is Not a Choice

I honestly don’t know why some people have the capacity to love unconditionally and others do not. It is still a mystery to me why I was able to act and feel this way through such a nightmare. I have my doubts whether anyone could go through this true love story if they wanted to. From my experience, this was not a choice. It may be just fine for many people to exist in relationships based on strong emotional ties that they call love even though, in reality, it is not love at all. Unconditional love may sound like something wonderful but it appears we have no control over its occurrence though it would be something that I would hope all people would strive to find.

Relationships Are Conditional. True Love Is Not.

For me it's true that relationships are conditional. True love is not. We may decide we don’t want someone in our life anymore. Just like our parents who love us unconditionally, even we sometimes hurt them. If we truly love, love unconditionally, then regardless of what someone does, we will still love them whether we want them in our life or not or whether they want us in their life or not.